hi, I AM ISHWIN!

Passionate to help readers be more happy and loved by improving their relationships for a harmonious life.

WHO AM I?

Ishwin, The advocate for a Harmonious Life

I am a married Asian woman who wants to share love and relationship tips for both men and women around the world so that everyone can live a happy and harmonious life.

I love connecting with people and having heart to heart sessions, traveling, dancing and cooking.

Love and relationships have always been important to me throughout my life. This includes my dating phase, current marriage and the continuous work in progress efforts pertaining to self love.

I want my readers to understand that there are always solutions to every problem (tips and tricks) that they can use to improve their life situations. All of us face them, including me!

MY married life

A successful and happy marriage requires consistency and lots of hard work from both partners.

Being married to my prince charming (aka husband) has been quite an interesting journey. Our marriage is not perfect as we do have our ups and downs but we both do our best to manage a healthy relationship.

Struggles Faced

To date, I have noticed similar patterns amongst many married couples (some of it applies to me and my husband too).

Below are some common struggles faced:

Feeling unloved by their partner due to different love languages.
Communication breakdown especially during fights/arguments
Trust issues perhaps due to a past incident that might have occurred.
Unable to express desires/wants/needs effectively leading to unhappiness.
Not spending enough quality time together
Argument/disagreement regarding financial matters/in-laws/household chores or other responsibilities that happen when you are married.

Marriage is the actual deal in life, not your wedding day. Well, there are some truths that probably nobody has told you :

Conflicts in marriage are normal. It is how you react and deal with it that makes the difference.
You don’t need your partner to feel complete or happy. You complement each other.
You won’t know your partner fully until you start living with them.
Difficult conversations are necessary and important to strengthen the relationship.
Lastly, love alone is not enough. It is easy to end a marriage but very difficult to sustain a happy one. Effort, Consistency and hard work make a marriage work.

MY DATING life

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth

Going back to the past, during my bachelor days, I had my fair share of the dating game.

It was quite fun actually, meeting different and unique potential candidates who might be your lifetime soul mate.

Honestly, I feel dating different individuals helped me understand what I really wanted and needed in my life.

However, I did experience some struggles whilst dating and noticed that I was not the only one facing them.

Common struggles I’ve experienced and also heard from others include:

Connecting with your “date” can be challenging. Sometimes, you might even feel awkward and not know what else to talk about.
The dating pool gets smaller and smaller as you grow older.
After your date, if the person starts to “ghost” you, it can be quite discouraging and upsetting.
Your “date” might be already interested to marry you whilst you are still figuring out if you can even survive another date.
Dating can be exhausting, especially for introverts.
It can be quite a challenge to read the signals on whether the date is going well or otherwise.

Apart from the fun socializing that comes with dating, there were times when I had to go through some heartbreaks too, before I met my husband which made me appreciate him even more.

I truly believe every experience is important and there is always something to learn from.

You may not see it at that point in time but fast forward, you would be able to connect all the dots (well, most of it!).

MY TAKE ON SELF LOVE

Self love is the highest form of love you can ever experience.

We should be the reason people believe in beautiful souls, kind hearts and good energy. It starts with you loving and caring for yourself, just like how you would towards someone you love and care for.

You may be wronged in many ways but never stop being a good person. However, this does not mean you allow people to take advantage of you.

Knowing the difference comes with experience and learning along the way. We may not be the same person as we were 10 years ago but we are still the same soul searching for pure love and happiness.

Self Love Struggles

The biggest struggle we usually face (at least me) is knowing when to self-love as opposed to being selfish or practicing self-sabotage.
We feel unworthy of loving ourselves and always looking at our weaknesses instead of celebrating our unique selves.
Always thinking about other people’s needs and wants, ensuring they are well taken care of. Sure, nothing is wrong with that as long as you are not just focusing on other people and neglecting your own well-being.
Finding it hard to trust yourself, let alone trusting others due to lack of physical or emotional safety during childhood (might also be childhood trauma).

The good news is, no matter how you feel today or felt in the past, there are solutions to feel better, going forward.

The most important step is for you to make a choice. Would you rather choose to continue feeling the way you are today or do you choose to make a difference by taking small and consistent actions every day?

Self-acceptance is a vital part of loving yourself. Without self-acceptance, there will always be a struggle for you to feel happiness and love within yourself.

why helpful harmony blog?

Let’s live a harmonious life!

In my Helpful Harmony blog, I intend to share all the tips I know that I have either experienced myself or learned/read / observed from others so that you can benefit and learn as well.
Being an Asian especially is quite challenging especially when it comes to the expression of thoughts and feelings. This platform serves to be your “virtual friend” so that you don’t feel alone.
Sometimes the best shortcut in life is to learn from other people’s experiences so that you can be excused from the same pain or mistake that stops you from being happy and feeling loved.
Life is so beautiful, there is so much love and joy out there.
We can’t just let our struggles and issues take the main seat in our life.
The right tips and guides are all you need to serve as a compass in life. This blog would also help you understand certain struggles/situations better and you will realize that you are not alone in facing these types of situations.

I truly want to help you whether you are married, single, looking for a partner, or just doing some soul-searching for love and happiness.

My blog will provide you the valuable guidance and tips so that you can live a truly harmonious life!

Sending lots of love, happiness, and positive energy your way!

Disclaimer: Please note that this is a personal blog where I share my personal experience, tips, and tricks about relationship matters. All opinions are mine. You should not take anything from this blog as professional advice.